Why do people lie on their profiles?
Who's been lying? How do you know? That has disappointed me. One of the main reasons I came on here was I thought I would meet real people.I really do not like lies and injustice.
very sad but i have come across many telling big fat porkies on here ...most men are honest i would hope ,but also a few that are out to date, what they may think is a vunerable woman just because she is a Christian ....also some use the label Christian very loosely ...and just because they've gone to church once or twice does not mean they follow the teachings of Christ x
so girls be aware ..take a friend with you when you date ...and remember there are good guys out there ....somewhere :)
Just click 'Hide from Searches' and don't give those profiles a moment more of your time. Continue looking - I reckon most people on here are seeking to form genuine relationships.
Sorry the only way to unsubscribe at the moment is to add a new post, and untick 'email me when someone replies' as the unsubscribe button is broken (on my system anyway).
Very surprised to see advice that women shoud take friends with them when they date! Fortunately none of the ladies I've dated has done that.
I've just read about people lying. It is sad to think that people could get away with telling porkies. Sadly, there are such people. And I agree that it may happen on other sites, but on a site
I've tho one. You would not not expect it. I'm no saint and I have my faults, but I would like to think that even if it's just friendship someone is looking for, honesty is paramount
God bless to the honest people. To the dishonest one. Let's just pray for them.
Steve
Just a few musings here...
There is absolutely no need to lie on a profile. It is perfectly possible to be accurate, honest and put some positive things in. We all have them - at all levels. For instance - I don't claim to be a bible scolar - I don't claim that on my profile and it wouldn't take a chap who is one long to discover that when talking to me. That doesn't make me either a bad person or a bad Christian - just different. If I HAD put that on my profile it would be counterproductive for someone who wants a bible scolarly partner, to be with me. On a different level - I'm not good with opera and have been open and said so but that said, if he likes it, I can either let him do it himself or try to like it with him.
If a product in the shops makes claims that are inaccurate the Trades Descriptions Act or Advertising Standards Authority soon find out - we need to 'market' ourselves similarly methinks.
@Martin - maybe I'm honest and that's why I haven't got many 'connections' but I'd certainly rather it that way than be dishonest. I hope you will be able to reframe your profile if you need to, accentuating your positive qualities - of which there will be many!
Blessings all
Unfortunately if you lie on your profile you are probably ruling out those who would be looking for that very thing you have lied about and hence those who would accept you for who you really are.
But then I think many people do not want what they can really have. Shame as those people will probably end up lonely and unhappy - probably blaming the world rather than themselves.
That's very sad because in doing so they are not being true to themselves . If you can't love yourself you certainly can't love others .
I couldn't take either of my best friends on a date Deborah, as they are FAR better flirts than me!! I would be vying for attention on my own date, ha ha ; )
My now brother in law Richard (met my sister on CC, it works, it works!) once met up with a lady he met on a dating site who in her photo was a blond and caucasion. When he arrived on said date, she turned out to be black! A good pal of mine also went out on a date having had her head turned by a photo of a man with jet black hair. When she met him on a date, he'd obviously had a big shock as his hair was completely snowy white! Do people think others won't notice???!!
Dating sites are not necessarily for the faint hearted, however the number of happily married people I know who met on one is pretty impressive. I shall continue in my polly anna hope!
Lots of reasons. Because they don’t trust God . They don’t believe that God can find their perfect life partner. Not only lack of faith but also maybe insecurity about the way they look or feel about their personality. They feel they have to pretend to be more interesting, exciting, successful, qualified than they are, slimmer, taller, younger.
Maybe some are unintentional. What they see when they look in the mirror is not what everyone else sees. Average means different things to different people.
Also sites like this one make it easy. They don’t ask for proof of age, marital status, occupation etc. It’s very tempting to exaggerate or leave important details out.
I think that honesty and trusting God is the only way that he will bless us. If you lie on your profile then you are only setting yourself and others up for a huge disappointment when you meet someone. We’re not stupid and it doesn’t take long for the truth to come out. The right person that God has for you will love you even if you are shorter than average, carrying a few extra pounds, left school with hardly any qualifications, have been divorced, have kids etc, etc ...
Re-read your profiles, trust God, be real, learn to love yourselves the way that God has made you and let him bless and amaze you.
I'm kind of with Stuart on that one about taking a friend with you when you meet. Of course I want women to think of their safety, but if you meet in a public place, ought that not to be enough? Some dating sites suggest getting a friend to call you during the date, so you have an excuse to slip out if things aren't going well.
In most cases it's a good idea to take more time to get to know somebody via email and phone before going to meet them. I went on one date with a truly lovely lady I met online, but we hadn't had any phone contact when she suggested we meet, and she let slip at some point that she had had a couple of really bad dates, and I wonder if this was because she had agreed to meet before really finding out very much about each guy. When she and I met, she was staying in the area with a friend, who came along too. It was difficult to concentrate on getting to know my date without feeling like I was ignoring her friend. This is my parents' fault for bringing me up to be polite. (TIP: To avoid any chance of the guy being distracted by a second attractive woman, bring your friend with the glass eye and the wooden leg. Tell her not to brush her teeth before the date.)
A compromise might be for the friend to come along for a few minutes and then leave once you have both ascertained that the chap isn't an escaped lunatic. Of course, this is only really practical if you're doing this close to home, unless your friend is willing to travel the country with you.
As for people lying on their profile - you're just going to turn around and walk away if they aren't who they claimed to be. It's a waste of everybody's time.
It would be bad enough on any site, but on a Christian one? What do they think they are going to achieve? Don't they realise that as soon as they start spending time with someone (however serious the relationship is) as soon as one lie comes out, the person will surely start wondering (even if there aren't) whether there are any more and the trust will be gone, and trust is very difficult to get back! Why doesn't everyone just be open and honest and stop this nonsense?!?