Single moms experiences of dating
I don't know what the original post was but as a single Mum it is hard to date. Add to that being a part time teacher with all the marking and preparation, it is even harder to find the time and energy to date.
But we have to prioritise, and without belittling the need for companionship, etc, dating is not a high priority for me. Some responsibilities have to come first.
Another issue is making time for God. With all the busyness that gets squeezed and if I can't make time for God I don't think I'm ready to give the time to a relationship. God has to come first for any relationship to be of lasting value, I believe.
Secondly, all the relationships that we currently hold need the investment of time.
I'm preaching to myself here as these are my challenges.
Dawn really wished you hasn't deleted this I was just coming on to repeat my message to you earlier! I hope you are ok ;-)
Yes Katharine I have noticed that its a bit of a teachers website...........not many male colleagues in the profession I guess anymore
Oh where has the deleted post gone?
Anyway...
first question.... how are single women finding dating and is it as easy?
I went on a date but though we got on fine online, really really well actually in person I realised very quickly he was not for me and would not really be one for the family I have. I think that is the hardest thing.. perhaps for those men who are willing to take on others children it is daunting and for those who are not we rule out so many eligible!
second question... why is it so quiet?
Did not want to answer the question while the kids were around!! They do not know I went on a date with the said man in question and I want them to trust this whole process.
I made the decision not to date as I did not want my child having lots of uncles and although I am very open minded & on the ball I am quite old fashioned about family values and couldn't imagine my child seeing me with a boyfriend. However, now I think if I would have (providing it was someone nice) it may have been better for my son as he said lately (he's grown up now) that he missed having male company. Also you can end up alone & realise you gave your whole life to others. Don't get me wrong I am very happy on my own and have turned down many chances because they weren't 100% what I would accept. I am very fussy and would never ever be in a bad relationship.
Dawn, thank you for asking the question. I do see Fiona's point that most people have something in their life that makes dating a challenge, but there are enough of us on here with the same challenge for it to be helpful to have a thread to talk about dating while bringing up kids. I wonder if there are any single dads who'd also like to contribute?
Katherine, are you me? Single parent, part-time teacher, don't want to miss out on the chance of finding a partner but wondering where to find the time and energy to put into the dating process. If you meet any nice men who are a bit too far to the west of where you are in London, pass them on to me, would you please?
Ellie, thank you for your words of caution. My kids have had a lot of loss in their lives already, and I don't want them attaching to one boyfriend after another and experiencing more losses if the relationships don't work out. After a lot of thought I've come round to the position recommended by Henry Cloud in 'How to get a date worth keeping' and I won't be encouraging any men I meet to get to know my kids unless the relationship becomes established and is looking seriously at marriage.
Hi Dawn - I'm not detracting from your situation but I think in everyones's situation there is always something which we could attribute to the problems. Children, age, attendant past relationship baggage, ageing parents etc etc are all things which have to be thrown into the mix.
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