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On this site one thing that puts me off contacting women is not the usual thithat you would expect(ie status,children, loaction,ethnic background etc) but their quafications. The majority of women profiles I

do you need to finish your sentence Barry????

LOL!

That was quite an interesting assertion until suddenly and without warning your post finished without you completing your senten

Barry - are you drunk?? lol

Sorry I pressed the wrong button please forgive me for that. What I meant to say that do people feel put off by other quafications and would you reject someone who had less quafications than yourselves?

My ex told me that repeatedly, Barry.

Barry, honestly, yes, sometimes, depending. I'm thinking in terms of, what we might find to talk about.

Qualifications aren't a big enough deal for me to be put off or otherwise. I do find intelligent men easier to talk to however but intelligence doesn't always equal qualifications.

Everyones qualified, its just a case can you prove it.

In fairness and speaking of quafications which Barry alluded to....
I am actually a fairly good quaffer.In fact as I write I am currently waiting my decanter to do it's magic on a fine 2001 Rioja.
Quafications-Undoubtably yes. Qualifications-Hopeless:(

However in reply to your question about whether qualifications matter when you first write to someone?
Unfortunately I think the answer is usually yes.I wish it wasn't so dominant a factor but I am afraid I think having similar qualifications and social status make an impression in terms of people's visions of compatibility
This you can see in life all the time in the partners,wives,and husbands that adults choose.
However there are always exceptions to this rule,so I hope we are all fortunate in finding that genuine person who loves us for who we are and not for what we have.

My answer to that would be simple: I'm not put off if you aren't. The last thing I'd want to do is to be thought too qualified and/or overbearing.

I don't think that paper qualifications are an absolute indicator of intelligence. I work in a secondary school, and some really bright, intelligent students do not 'do well' in a school environment, but leave and are very successful in their subsequent careers despite this. This has also proved to be the case with people I have met through my life, so I don't think you can judge anyone by their lack or plethora of qualifications.

Barry,
I have a degree in a health related subject and I'm reasonably bright but I wouldn't be put off if I met a really nice Christian man who didn't have the same or higher qualifications.
My heart would have been made ready for him anyway so I wouldn't be checking a list.