How, in a Christian marriage, should the husband be the head of the family.
It is a can of juicy, wriggly worms, and apologies if it's been aired before. But this is a dating website!
I think husband and wife are equal, having their own strengths and weaknesses...should complement each other, respect each other etc...def not into having a controlling husband who quotes that verse at me...have had too much experience of it in past life!!!
How about if the chap agrees to wash up occasionally: will the chap still get his food on the table when he walks in, slippers ready in the hallway, house hoovered and polished 4 times a week, fridge full of his favourite foods and 30 minutes silence whilst he unwinds from the business of the day and reads the paper?
The husband should be the head as Christ is the head of the church. We look at the way Christ relates to the church. First of all, He loved her so much that He gave His life for her, He emptied Himself so that there would be a relationship with her. He protects her from the enemy, He helps her to be the best she can be, etc. Christ has respect for the church, and the church has respect for Christ. There's not much of a relationship without mutual respect and love.
Thanks for your response, Julie! I've been in a marriage where, simply due to the nature of the relationship, in many ways for most of the time, I was allowed to make the important decisions. The relationship failed. I was also in a relationship where I went with the flow (and felt miserable and frustrated in the process). The relationship failed. I was just wondering how one applies the Christian model in practice, without the wife feeling sidelined in the process.
Caveat Julie! Thanks Mark for your response, I think the answer is no (from me!) Funny story: my lovely dad used to do the washing up in the evening, but with the blinds shut so that the neighbours couldn't see!!
Isn't that a male chauvenist Mark? Beware Julie, it could well be Mark describing himself!!!!!!!!
Being the head of the home is a spiritual thing. The buck stops with hubby because he is the wife's protector, covering, etc. etc. even when she is wrong about something, her husband will not denegrate her, or put her down. On all other levels, it is teamwork - and my favourite regarding this is in Ecclesiastes 4 v 9-12.
Yes, the husband is the head!!! and wife must be the cook! ofcourse, both could eat together! But I think, the washing must be done by the wife, whil the husband relaxes watching TV. I am not married! This is only an assumtion! Nothing to do with the Bible though! I am sure all the women will agree with me any day!!
Sorry Vincent. I think housework should be shared, especially if both work. Otherwise, the wife needs a housekeeper/maid.
Comeon Connie, ask any girl, they will say as I said. Just think, even the kitchen work is normally associated with women from ages! Men are usually just to supervise the work and the wife!
I won't take your bait, Vincent! Chloe, was wondering what you mean by it being a spiritual thing? I understand the Christian model, but I just don't know how you apply it nowadays. Mine was the first generation of girls, I think, to be told at school that they could do anything. So we have a generation of confident, assertive women, used to having their views listened to and respected, and used to having a degree of control over their lives.
Touche Samina :-)))
Men are supposed to love their wife as Jesus loves the church...ie be prepared to lay their life down for her, love her unconditionally...in every day things I think as I said before, the husband and wife should lead according to their own strengths and respect and encourage each other in that....
Do you think the husband should be the head of the family? How do you define the term 'head'. Does it mean that the husband should be the sole or main breadwinner, that he should have the ultimate say in important decisions, that he should have the ultimate say in all decisions, that the wife should have most or all responsibility for domestic chores?