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Hi Guys,

If you put on your profile that you would like "lots of children" does this also mean that you are looking for a woman of a certain age group? I've just noted this on the profile of a few men in my age group, which makes me think that they are looking for a woman in their 20s, or very early 30s at the most.

I'm just curious if this is what you had intended.

Thanks.

ho, how good, then does that mean men that indicate one or two children are looking for ladies from 40-60?.
thanks for the info user,
you just clicked something right into place for me !

Ola,

I think all men are different and all men seek a woman of a variety of ages. Sometimes we go in with an idea, whether preconcieved and its blown out of proportion. I remember years ago saying I want someone shorter than me who didn't smoke. Yet I found myself falling for that. What I am trying to say is men can't be put into categories, each of us is unique.

Bear that in mind because we all are looking for different things :)

Sorry John, I am slightly miffed by your statement that women over 30 find it difficult to conceive!
I am 32 in November - Studies show that fertility in women won't start dropping until I am 35, and women can conceive without help at 40 - my Mum had me when she was 40. Just to get that sorted! Look at my profile! Do I look like I am too old to conceive?!!! :(

There are no hard or fast rules to this question though i have thought about it....I want at least 4 children,one to go the shop, one to do the garden, one to paint the kitchen and one to go in goal....do you think i could persuade any of you?

Oh but failing that i'll just settle for old any romantic gesture that sets my heart a flutter..

Hi John, I think you just hit on a sore point - as a young woman I don't want to be seen as past it by others when I still feel and look like I'm just out of Uni!! I must labour the point that risks of complications and quite marked reduction in fertility start to happen after 35 and not after 30.

God bless

elysia
i'm happy to see u have come off from behind the camera( ur old pic) and you are a pretty lady now that i can see your full facial and body, you will look good on the hands of the right man and may The Lord give u one of the best!
what do you say dave and joe arent i right, get working boys i have just broken the 'ice'!

Thanks Karen.
I will try and cheer up and stop thinking about my biological ticking clock that has been drawn to my attention that I normally completely ignore. It's ok John, I forgive you. I trust that God, through my proactiveness, will guide me to a good match but if He doesnt, I will have to live with that for the rest of my time on this earth. There's plenty to look forward to after, which makes finding a husband in this world pale into insignificance..

Hello, new to the boards here.

To go off at a bit of a tangent, it does seem like the question about whether you want children is one where a narrative answer rather than a list of options might have been better, partly because there can be a match between "Let's talk about it" and "Yes, want one or two", and partly because I would have thought that most blokes would need some time to adjust from being a bachelor to being a parent.

Thanks for your answers. Personally, I will not contact a man who states that he wants lots of children, but I think that is part of the intention of his selecting this option. I wanted lots of children when I was younger, but the option is not really available to me, biologically now.

Stephen, it is interesting to hear you say that most blokes need some time to adjust to becoming a parent. I definitely get that impression from the profiles. I can understand and appreciate that men do not wish to be "rushed" into a relationship, marriage or fatherhoood, however, it does trouble me that Christian men don't seem to have thought about this seriously, before they have reached their mid 30s. I have thought about marriage and motherhood since girlhood. I don't really understand why so many men seem so detached from the prospect of marriage and fatherhood.

I would have thought that anyone who is on here for the right reason of about that age should have considered it thoughtfully, but there is a huge change in your life between living on your own and getting married and then another huge change when children come along.

I know it can't always happen, but I think there are good reasons for building bonds within a marriage to start with first. Having children is a good reason to get married to someone, but it shouldn't be the reason because you need good foundations if it doesn't or can't happen. Also I have seen marriages where children come along quickly that stay strong when those children have moved out, but I've also seen marriages that come apart at the same point.