can there be a real and moral lady online?
An interesting question. Two Bible verses have been on my mind - Proverbs ch 31 vs 30
"Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised."
and Psalm 119 vs 63
"I am a companion of all who fear You, And of those who keep Your precepts."
Hi Joe I to have been shocked that there are lots of people out there who say they are christians yet see no wrong with sex before marraige. until I joined this site I just thoght this was an issue for the youth of my church who seem to pick and choose what they want to follow from the word of God but from reading the boards I have discovered that some people on this site also have similar views.
yep, shocked me too. A bit worried it might limit my chances of finding a partner even further! Also shocked about women acting the same.. it just goes to show how culture has such a hold on us in terms of what we class as acceptable and unacceptable behaviour.
elysia I am concerned about finding the right person with God values, I have met many wolves in sheeps clothing. I'm not unaware how easy it is to be tempted but is that not just a test of faith to be strong. I have infact decided that I need to cancel my membership and wait on the lord to bring me the right man if it is his will.I wish you all the best in your search.
thank you Jane and Elysia for your contribution to this,would you say it's the individual or the training they receive from church,who is responsible? ;-)
joe,
could we start by asking you to first put up your pics on your profile, because i would like to see a person when i address him/her. since you are shy , might i say the problem you mentioned has something to do with you?, sorry if im rude but just thinking!
you know it is like people who hate themselves thinking everybody hates them, you know that sort of psychology. maybe as you shy to even put up your pics, any lady givng you an innocent hug might come across to you as being too overtly!. Most of the time i find out we tend to see more than is there if we are insecure in an area!. this is not being unkind just trying to help!
for example i was teaching years ago and i came about calling my students darling , love, dear all the endearments and beacuse they are kids they are comfortable with accepting such show of affection from a loving christian teacher who also gives them godly counsels and i am also comfortable with the use of these terms that i find myself addressing people i meet with such terms, even my ex-husband i sometime find myself addressing him like!. Therefore any adult that is insecure or shy and he / she comes across me and i address in such a manner might feel a abit odd!. The bible say let our eyes be single and when it is single then our whole bodies will be full of light. I use this scripture not to read things bad into things except is blantantly made clear in actions or words!
God bless
Hey Karen, thanks for the comment,as for my picture on a dating site,no way,i don't think you are rude,i like your psychology, but this time you are not fully right, i have friends who are female,i have no problem hugging,(receiving or giving)i may be naive in some things, but i know what sex is,i know what sleep with me mean when a person undress in front of you and say that,i do not want to see anymore to know what she means,yes am human,and yes am tempted when it happens,i am not innocent, but am not going to give in soo easilly,the incedents i was talking about could not have been made any clearer,could it?
:-)
Jane and Elysia
Have you not read 'Love Languages'?
Obviously, you are disillusioned with the site and how some chaps don't live up to your expectations.
I would suggest that when we say tolerance is a sin it is but a small step away from the sins and abuses of intolerance.
Disappearing into a world of self until you meet that perfect person is not a bad thing but it can also mean that every chap you meet is first sifted through the filter of your own standards. If he should match those standards then he is accepted. What about loving the person DESPITE some imperfections. After all, isn't that what Christ did for us and continues to do?
having used a few online dating sites over the years,i have had the misfortune of befriending a number of people with loose morals,people who see nothing wrong with sex before marraige,people seem too despate for sex they don't want to get to know you first,when you turn down their sexual advances,they quickly cut you off(good thing too)i just wonder if there are women out there who take their time to know people,am i the only person this happens to?has this happen to you guys too? has this happen to you ladies too?what are your views?